The Best Self Help Books for Insecurity and Low Self Esteem to Change Your Life

Self-image is key to a healthy well being and happiness. So if you truly want to live your best life, overcoming insecurity and low self esteem are critical. I’ve compiled the best, and my favorite, life changing self help books of all time. 2019 is your time to rise above the depths of insecurity. These inspirational books will empower you with the confidence and grit you need to be the best version of yourself.


What do you need to make positive change in your life? Inspiration, motivation, eliminate low self esteem, restore balance, or find your life purpose? Well it all begins with wholeheartedly loving yourself and overcoming insecurity.

Best self help books for insecurity and low self-esteem book reviews

Low self esteem, low self confidence and low self worth are the powerful obstacles to finding true happiness. These belief systems are life defining and can create debilitating insecurity. So the beauty of these life changing inspirational self help books is that they empower you to create the mindset for a healthy, happy well-being. To live your best life. Prepare to fill your cup!

  • Eliminate the compulsion to beat yourself up with negative self talk and assumptions
  • Rise above low self esteem with the self confidence you need to combat insecurity
  • Use an inspired and positive mindset to go after your goals and dreams
  • Realize the amazing possibilities within you by EMBRACING your self worth
  • Uncover self love that will change your life

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I believe we can change the world. But first,

we’ve got to stop living

in fear of being

judged for who we are.

Rachel Hollis

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Now on to my original list of the ultimate, empowering self help books that I’m so excited to share with you!


Inspirational Books About Self Worth – These Self Help Reads Will Annihilate Insecurity and Change Your Life


Girl Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be – Rachel Hollis

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If the title alone doesn’t grab you, just open to the first page and you will be changed forever. Rachel is newer on the self love books for women scene but she’s a breath of fresh air. And she has earned her place to the front of the line!

Her style is so much more than the cliche’ inspirational and motivational message, Hollis is fierce. She gives real-world advice (and she is specific) to help you grow and evolve in mind, spirit and body. Rachel puts a halt to the lies we tell ourselves about our self worth and will make you fall back in love with your true, authentic self! This woman is tough and vulnerable at the same time. She is self deprecating and self confident. Moreover, her positive energy is so contagious you can’t hep but catch it! Truly one of the best inspirational books about self worth that your confidence will go through the roof!

Rachel is a breath of fresh air!

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What I Love Most: Through humor, painful and uplifting stories, and practical strategies, Rachel empowers you to eliminate the fears holding you back and get real. Before you know it, the strategies on paper transcend in to the everyday life you are absolutely meant to live.

Favorite excerpt:

What if the hard stuff, the amazing stuff, the love, the joy, the hope, the fear, the weird stuff, the funny stuff, the stuff that takes you so low you’re lying on the floor crying and thinking, How did I get here? . . . What if none of it is happening to you? What if all of it is happening for you?


The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom – Don Miguel Ruiz

The most life changing, inspirational books about self worth and self love are the ones that make your eyes brighten, your mouth open and your mind rush to keep up with the words on page. You just cannot read fast enough. Consequently, this is what will undoubtedly happen when you hold The Four Agreements in your hands.

The Four Agreements is all about freedom from a belief system, agreements we make with ourselves and others, that limits our potential and creates unhappiness and low self worth. These are the forces that prevent us from living an authentic life.

Sure anyone can easily google The Four Agreements to reveal them. If you do, you will surely feel inspired enough to print them out, stick them on the refrigerator and go about your day feeling evolved and worthy (not that there’s anything wrong with that). But, if you really are thirsty for improving your self esteem or maybe you can’t even pinpoint the type of self help book you are looking, nevertheless here is where you will find it!

Don Miguel Ruiz is more

than a writer and the

Four Agreements is more than a book!

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What I Love Most: The book is written in such a beautiful, powerful yet compassionate voice that you will find it difficult to move on from each agreement to the next. As you will feel like the eager student to this Life Teacher. You will be filled with inspiration – and anticipation of that next agreement. Additionally, all of your new found freedom from insecurity that each one gives.

Favorite excerpt:

If others tell us something we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate. Even if we hear something and we don’t understand we make assumptions about what it means and then believe the assumptions. We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.

Tip: Save yourself the ink and don’t bother underlining – the entire book is worth underlining 🙂


The Gifts of Imperfection – Brene´ Brown

I never thought I would have much interest in reading about shame and vulnerability but wow if you don’t check out this book then self worth, self confidence and self esteem may elude you forever.

There are so many nuggets of greatness here. Especially that we are all born worthy and that vulnerability is courageous. You will embrace wholehearted living and grow in the authenticity to empower you to change what you need to live your best life. Those are not just words. These qualities become a conscious choice by which you will be nothing less than compelled to live by each day. Brown is gentle in her writing but forceful in her message about overcoming insecurity, low self worth and low self esteem.

Brene´ Brown’s writing and

storytelling is so relatable that

you’ll forget she is a renowned

social scientist and researcher.

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What I Love Most: The book is mostly sectioned in to 10 Guideposts to wholehearted living. Each guidepost’s title begins with Cultivating, followed by Letting Go at the respective conclusions. For example, the first guidepost is Cultivating Self-Compassion – Letting Go of Perfection.  The chapters end with how Brene´ Digs Deep by getting deliberate, inspired and going, and she then asks how you will do the same. If any self help book can empower you to overcome insecurity, it is The Gifts of Imperfection.

Favorite Excerpt:

If we want to to live and love with our whole hearts, and if we want to engage with the world from a place of worthiness, we have to talk about the things that get in the way – especially shame, fear and vulnerability.


A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose – Eckhart Tolle

I will never outgrow Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth – Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose. Tolle is one of the greatest spiritual teachers of our time (of any time). He simplifies ways to accomplish what is almost impossible for many of us to put in to words – finding peace, self worth, purpose and fulfillment. This is beyond an inspirational book about self worth. His profound yet eloquent message what makes his a life changing self help book. Eckhart will awaken you to a “new consciousness” to find inner peace critical for self love.

Eckhart also talks about how insecurity can cause us to make self destructive decisions. Choices based on greed, power and/or the fear that cause even more suffering. Tolle explains that too often, people tend to think of “purpose,” as striving to reach a certain grandiose, finite goal in life. But the purpose of a human being doesn’t have anything to do with long-term goals and the passage of time. He says, “… your primary purpose—to be here fully in whatever you do so that the preciousness of the present moment remains paramount.”

Eckhart’s inspirational message will change you forever.

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What I Love Most:  I talk about Eckhart often throughout Own Your Best and on social media because he is the most empowering, inspirational and centering person I have ever experienced. Yes, Eckhart Tolle is someone to experience. On practical note, this self help book has the the most efficient index I’ve seen in a long time! You can find any sub-topic you need from the anywhere in the book. So jump around as much as you want and need.

Favorite Excerpt (among too many to count):

The joy of Being, which is the only true happiness, cannot come to you through any form, possession, achievement, person, or event – through anything that happens. That joy cannot come to you – ever. It emanates from the formless dimension within you, from consciousness itself and thus is one with who you are.


UNFU*K YOURSELF: GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND INTO YOUR LIFE – GARY JOHN BISHOP

Inarguably another attention-grabbing title that will make you go “hmmm, this is a self help book for insecurity?!” Yes! And even with his use of expletives – both in the title and throughout the book – right here is a powerful and inspirational read about self worth and overcoming insecurity for men and women alike!

Maybe there’s a comical irony that a title like this is under the best self help books category but the message is not funny at all. Call it tough love, self help or simply a no-nonsense approach. No matter, Bishop shows you how to give yourself a kick in the ass and tell that toxic low self esteem and negative self talk to shut the hell up!

Bishop’s message is clear and 

concise. You are essentially 

what you do and DO NOT do.

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What I Love Most: You and your “emotionally soaked self talk” can be your own worst enemies and Bishop will call you on it. He also calls you on accountability and inaction – inaction which is toxic to your well being. Aside from confronting negative self talk and low self worth, Bishop gives reasons and inspiration to take action and stop standing in your own way. This includes (and resonates with me personally) what he demonstrates in the book as “in-the-moment assertive language”.

Favorite Excerpt:

When you have set out the goals that you are claiming as yours in life and, more importantly, relentlessly taking the actions to produce, it’s only a matter of when. We are wired to win. You are wired to win … And strive to understand yourself in deeper and more meaningful ways. True understanding of yourself and your personal constraints allows for ever unfolding degrees of freedom and success … Step out there. Trust yourself. Give yourself fully to your vast capacity for victory … Demand your greatness of yourself and repeat after me: I am wired to win.


SPIRIT JUNKIE: A RADICAL ROAD TO SELF-LOVE AND MIRACLES – Gabrielle Bernstein

Shall we go from in-your-face expletives to spiritual? Sure why not. Before Gabrielle Bernstein became a best-selling author, motivational speaker and life coach, she led a busy professional life as a New York City PR agent with serious partying and addiction on the side.

If you’re familiar with Marianne Williamson and/or A Course in Miracles, this will be a familiar yet fresh, New Age perspective on the teachings. I like many tried my hand at A Course in Miracles and it was too much of everything for me to handle. Gabrielle’s memoir takes you on her spiritual journey and how A Course in Miracles transformed her life. She translates (or as she calls it “Gabbifies”) the Course’s teachings into this guidebook for overcoming fear, with new perspectives and waking up loving your life and yourself.

Her real-time, real-world solutions annihilate the negative self talk mindset in this self love guidebook.

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What I Love Most: Spirit Junkie is not your ‘old-school’, raise my self confidence, get rid of my insecurity, self help book style of writing so it may not be for everyone. For me Gabrielle’s youthful, totally motivating, sassy yet edgy language emits an energy off the pages that is a welcome diversion from what I’m used to reading. This inspirational book about the self worth you were born with and will never lose will keep you engaged, inspired and uplifted!

Favorite Excerpt:

By judging my partner, I kept our unforgiving dynamic alive. Once I released my judgment against her, I was able to take a huge step toward forgiving her. Take this time to acknowledge how you’ve been judging those people you need to forgive. Ask yourself, ‘How have I been judging?’.


Best inspirational books self-worth reviews

Overcoming low self esteem can be difficult. Begin by using these life changing self help books and resources to rediscover your worth. Know for sure that nurturing and valuing your self confidence with a positive mindset is everything! This is the key that you hold within you to live a happy and abundant life. The sooner you take control over insecurity and overcome low self esteem, the quicker you will change, enjoy and Own Your Best life.

Stay tuned! More to come!

 “How much we know and understand ourselves is critically important, but there is something that is even more essential to living a Wholehearted life: loving ourselves.” – Brene’ Brown
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7 Comments

  1. I love finding new books to read! I can’t wait to check these out! Thank you so much for sharing them!

  2. This was a great post! I think I will check out the unf*ck yourself book. I get into my own head way too often.

  3. Thanks you for the awesome suggestions and helpful info on these particular books. It can get a little overwhelming on choosing a book that will serve me best, this has been helpful…going with Rachel Hollis!!

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